Common Responses to Grief
A large variety of factors influence an individual’s response to grief. These factors can include but are not limited to individual personality, level of cognitive development, relationship dynamics, circumstances surrounding the loss, reactions of parents and significant others, and personal loss history.
Following is a list of “common responses” which illuminate the wide range of “typical” responses. Keep in mind that grief manifests itself in many ways. Often when a person appears to not be grieving, it is more likely that their mourning is less visible and observable. It does not minimize the impact that the loss has had on the individual.
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Inability to focus or concentrate
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Failing or declining grades
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Incomplete work or poor quality of work
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Increased absences or reluctance to go to school
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Forgetfulness or memory loss
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Overachievement or trying to be perfect
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Problems finding words
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Inattentiveness
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Daydreaming
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Disruptive behavior
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Hyperactive-like behavior
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Increase in risk-taking or unsafe behavior
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High need for attention
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Isolation or withdrawal
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A need for checking in on surviving parent(s)/guardians/family members
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Insecurity
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Concern about being treated differently
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Fear, guilt, anger, rage, regret, sadness, & confusion
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Appearing unaffected by the death
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Social withdrawal
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Changes in relationships
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Difficulty in groups
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Somatic complaints
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Nightmares & sleep difficulties
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Questions about the meaning of life
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Confusion about where the person who died is
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Questioning previous beliefs
Compiled by Tina Barrett, Ed.D., LCPC